Top Excuses Dementia Caregivers Often Make

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Dementia caregivers benefit when building a network of support.

“You can make it, but it’s easier if you don’t have to do it alone.” – Betty Ford

We know that single person is an island, something that particularly holds true when caring for a person with Alzheimer’s. However, many dementia caregivers stumble with regards to asking for or accepting the help they need. As a result, stress is aggravated as there’s little or no time for self-care – an important feature for any person in a caregiving role.

Why are we frequently so determined to address such an incredible undertaking independently? Here are several common reasons and why we should rethink them:

  1. I’m doing just fine on my own; I don’t need a break. Simply put, science disagrees! A research study shared in the American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry found that a specific stress hormone was depleted in caregivers whose stress was prolonged and chronic – such as in providing Alzheimer’s care independently – while those who engaged just 2 days per week of respite achieved a boost in the hormone along with a brighter outlook and elevated mood.
  2. It is too complicated to try and find a caregiver I’m able to trust. At Serenity Home Care, we background check and professionally train each one of our caregivers, verifying key character traits such as flexibility, reliability, kindness, and so much more. Serenity Home Care is insured and bonded, for your additional peace of mind. We also carefully match each older adult together with the ideal caregiver who will be most compatible. Additionally, if a senior’s primary caregiver is on vacation or ill, we will provide an equally qualified replacement caregiver.
  3. No one else could care for Mom like I do. While you are most certainly not replaceable, the objective of enlisting help is certainly not replacement, but respite. A senior with dementia will benefit through the socialization provided by someone other than yourself, while you gain the benefit of a much-needed break – ultimately allowing you to provide better care to the older adult when you return.
  4. Mom would not want somebody else taking care of her. Most of us would balk if we were told that someone was coming over to bathe us. But having someone come and assist with housework and meals is an excellent way to introduce a brand new caregiver, working your way up to additional necessary services once the caregiver is known and accepted. The phrasing you use will make a significant difference as well. Having a “salon day” sounds much more inviting, for example.

If you would like to explore in-home respite care for someone you love with dementia, reach out to Serenity Home Care. Our fully trained, experienced, creative, and compassionate caregivers are here to help you reduce stress, improve life for the older adult you love, and provide you with the chance for self-care. Call us at 250-590-8098 to learn more about our Victoria home care solutions and care throughout the nearby areas.